Be Happy, Just Don't Be Gay...

So, the next time you dream about your children and what you wish for them, I want to know what you really wish for. I want someone to tell me what it is they wish for their children to have in their lives. Is it a good job, a respectable husband/wife, adorable children free of special needs. What?

I can tell you what I've always wished for mine. Maybe out of the norm but I've never had a single vision of my children in a particular occupation. Never. I've never thought or wished that a doctor, a lawyer, or a preacher they would become. No, not even once. The only two things, and I mean the only two things I've ever wished for my children is to live up to their potential (whatever that may be) and happiness. Not drug-induced, wreckless-behavior kind of happiness. Rather, happiness that does not impose upon the happiness or well being of others. Happiness that you can see when they walk through the door for Sunday dinner. Happiness that shines through their eyes, the same eyes of that little toddler running around in footy-pajamas squealing with delight before bedtime. Happiness that they can accept because they know they're worth it and they can embrace because they have been embraced themselves during their lives. That's it. That is the only thing I've ever wished for my children. Everything else is secondary and I really don't care one way or the other about it all. If they're living paycheck to paycheck and getting their electric shut off every other month, I'd be frustrated, but if they laughed instead of cried about it, I'd know they'll be just fine. I'd even hand them the money to have it turned back on...maybe.

But, I've never said to my children during any conversation about future, past, present or hypothetical "I want you to be happy, just don't be gay". I've never suggested to my children that being gay isn't really being happy and that they would never have a real marriage, if they ever wanted one, because they say that a marriage has been defined between a man and a woman. Even though Merriam Webster's Dictionary has it defined as: (2) the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage.

No, you'll never hear me say anything like that to my kids. I can be true to that, I assure. I find this to be the worst kind of set up for any child, or adult, for that matter. To lead your child down a path of "you can be whatever you want to be" just so long as it adheres to what is defined as right and wrong by whomever creates these definitions (probably the same as those who create street names...).

How mean spirited does one have to be to do that to their own child to the point that many suicides are the end result. Is that seriously worth it? Who cares??!! Stop trying to micro manage your kids' future and just embrace it all. This is it! That footy-pajama-wearing-squealing-toddler is the same one you look at now. Would those squeals of delight been less enjoyable had you known they would be in a same-sex relationship? You can't even tell me those footy-pajamas would look less adorable on a homosexual toddler because they're just toddlers, right? Their just little kids, right? Their just your kids right? Well, if that is your biggest worry or issue with your kids, then you've done something really right. If your child can look into their future with everything ahead of them being a challenge and say "I'm ready!", you've empowered them and made them feel like they can be anything. That is unconditional love. Stop talking about it, stop charging for it...just give it!

C